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Let’s say you wanted to really give your man the ultimate blowjob tonight. There could be many reasons for this:
Perhaps you met someone you’re crazy about and want to really impress him with your oral sex skills and your dedication to the art of giving pleasure.
Maybe you’ve been dating someone for a couple of years and you think he might be getting ready to pop the question… he’s just waiting for the perfect moment when he’s super happy. Giving him the world’s most amazing blowjob at the end of a great day may be just what he needs to get onto one knee to propose.
Your beau has just done something wonderful and unforgettable for you, and you want to reward him so he keeps doing special things for you. What better way than the perfect hummer?
PMS has come with a vengeance and you know you were a bitch from hell to him. You want to say you’re sorry somehow and show him you love him and appreciate that he puts up with you.
You just met a famous actor in a restaurant and he invited you home. This guy has probably had sex with hundreds of beautiful and desperate women. What are you going to do to do to be memorable and make him ask you out a second time? These guys date and eventually marry someone… why not you? But, you need to give him a good reason to give you the time to show him how great you are.
The blowjob skills described in my guide will put you at the top 99.9% of women when it comes to oral sex, but how do you put it all together for the perfect BJ experience? With a great diversity in what men like, what will work for almost any man?
The power of feminine sexual energy that men love
The real key to the perfect blowjob is understanding that men want you to be extremely feminine, and to bring out their manliness. While this seems like a simple concept, many women these days have a very difficult time with this. Giving up control, acting submissive, etc can feel uncomfortable… even demeaning. Yet we are programmed for this. As the weaker gender, we instinctively know how to gain control of our men through our feminine powers. To give a great blowjob, you have to be a great actress, and playing the submissive is probably very important if you want to make your man feel powerful.
You don’t want to look like your everyday normal self, no matter how gorgeous you are. If possible, you want to look like someone else, so part of him feels like he’s making love with someone else. How does this make him love you if you want him to feel like it’s someone else? Because you’re showing him that you understand his need for both variety and conquest. If he knows that you understand his deepest needs, he will feel a much deeper connection with you and be more likely to want to stay with you.
Extra tips: Use lots of eye contact… nearly continuously. Dark eye makeup. Red or pin lipstick. High Heels. Leave your hair down or put it in two pigtails. The point is to be feminine and exotic.
Leading up to the perfect blowjob
What does this really mean though? Get ready to do whatever he wants, when he wants it, and make it clear that’s what you’re doing. TELL HIM that’s what you’re doing. Whisper in his ear, “Oh darling, I’m so crazy about you. You make me want to be your slave. I’ll do anything for you right now. Will you please let me suck your cock so I can make you the happiest man in the world?” When he says yes, move immediately onto your knees, or into a position with your mouth level with his penis. Men don’t need much foreplay… their sexual energy is strongest at the beginning and lots of foreplay, which is so necessary for most of us women, often lowers a man’s sexual energy. So for the perfect blowjob, get right to it. In fact, the shorter the amount of time between the moment that he realizes that you want to make love, and the time that he’s actually in your mouth, the better. DON’T touch or rub his penis beforehand with your hands unless you use the featheriest of touches.
Extra tips: Don’t underestimate the power of your voice to help him relax and make him feel powerful. Just a few luscious words showing your desire for HIM and HIS COCK will work wonders for your overall sexual relationship.
How to get started
I recommend starting on your knees… this will immediately make him feel like a stud. Always remember that your goal is to make him feel strong, manly, a winner. He feels awesome because he has an incredible girl doing this for him. You’re massaging his ego, and he will love you for it.
If you’ve read about how to give a blowjob before, you may have heard this advice: “worship his cock!” and that’s just exactly what you need to do. Don’t laugh, I’m serious! You just need to pretend that his cock is the most amazing and wonderful thing you’ve ever seen. You can’t get enough of it. Lick, kiss and suck it all over, popping it in and out of your mouth, all the while looking him in the eyes and smiling as much as possible. Did you know that you can even smile while his cock is fully in your mouth? Try it!
Most men are very visual, so all the playing around I just described will be very exciting for them. Expect them to be riveted to your every move. But, some men won’t be watching and so you can’t make eye contact. Either he isn’t very visually oriented, or he’s just shy or even a bit embarrassed. Try encouraging him to look at you… make it clear that it’s okay. Say something like “Darling, it really turns me on when you watch me.” Don’t give him orders, but instead give him positive encouragement. He may discover something new. Remember, by reading this blowjob guide, you’ll know much more than your man about what he likes or may like, since most men have never had a blowjob by someone with the experience you’ll have.
The sounds of a great blowjob
Some men really don’t have a lot of interest in watching. Their brains just aren’t wired that way. If not, they will be more focused on what they’re feeling and HEARING. Regardless of whether he’s more visual, auditory, or kinesthetic, he’s going to probably love the sounds of your sucking him off, so be prepared to make lots of noise for him, which will fall into four classes, and you should do them ALL (sounds complicated I know but it’s worth it to understand what the “ultimate” blowjob sounds like.)
First, ambient noise… put on some music that HE loves… something that inspires him, perhaps something that makes him (and you) want to dance and move. Great music helps him to relax and makes anything more fun and exciting. Plus it can help to hide the other sounds you’ll be making from the ears of neighbors or roommates!
Next, as described above, you should talk a bit dirty to him occasionally… tell him how much you’re LOVING what you’re doing. Tell him how incredible his cock is. Tell him how turned on you are. BEG him to give you his cock in whatever way he wants. When the time comes, beg him (yes say PLEASE) for his cum. Guys love this and will adore any girl who they think loves their cum as much as they love it themselves.
The third part is the sounds of YOUR pleasure. You will be moaning with pleasure with every movement of his penis into your mouth as if your mouth is your pussy. Many women can have orgasms from giving a blowjob and making the sounds of pleasure helps with that. You may start with false sounds of pleasure but they can quickly become real, so fake it until you make it!
The last part of course is the sloppy sounds of your sucking itself. It helps to have lots of saliva in your mouth for this. Feel free to exaggerate the sounds so he can really hear them. These sucking sounds mixed with your moaning will really send him into another world.
The best blowjob positions
There are hundreds of possible positions that have been known and appreciated for thousands of years since the Kama Sutra was written in India and surely before that. However most are just novelties, and while they’re fun to play and experiment with for the sake of variety, there are a few that stand out as being “most sexy” to the majority of men.
You’ve started on your knees, but even this simple-sounding position has many possible variations. Where are your feet while you’re on your knees? Are they tucked underneath your butt while you’re sitting on them, or does it matter? Are they splayed out to two sides awkwardly? And where are your knees themselves? Are they together or apart, and why would it matter anyway? How high are you while you’re kneeling? Is your mouth above or below his penis. Does it matter?
Yes all these things matter, and the answer is that there’s on particular variation that is sexier than all the others, and I’ll describe it here. First and most importantly, you want your knees apart… as far part as you get them. Having your knees apart is a natural symbol of desire and passion. It can be less comfortable than together, but it does let you put one or both hands on your pussy, to give yourself pleasure while you’re giving head, which is a very important part of the ultimate blowjob. The more you enjoy it, the more he should enjoy it too. Second, sit on your feet, which are tucked under your butt, UNLESS you’re wearing high heels, in which case you sit between your feet, so he can SEE your sexy shoes on both sides. This can stress your knees and so it takes practice. Do more yoga…. yoga is GREAT for sex in every way. If you’re sitting, your mouth should be slightly below his penis, which means you will have to tilt your head back to get it into your mouth. This is ideal because you can keep eye contact and he can see your pretty face and watch your mouth while you’re sucking, which will be a huge turn on for him (and should be for you too!) Plus, as an added benefit, having your head back like this makes you look about ten years younger if you’re in your thirties or above. Your wrinkles will all flatten out! The drawback of this position is that it’s very difficult to deep-throat him. His penis will want to point up along the angle of his pubic bone, but your throat is pretty much going 180 degrees down the other way. If you can’t deep-throat (which 95% of us can’t) then it doesn’t matter anyway, but I’m trying to describe the perfect blowjob so I need to cover this possibility.
Hints: The kneeling position is also an easy one in which to use one or both hands to stroke his cock while you’re sucking it. However, I recommend that you don’t use your hands at first. Start the blowjob with less pressure and less friction… don’t use your tongue’s upward pressure so much, but let the feeling be light and airy for the first few minutes, and only gradually ramp up the pressure. This allows him to keep his sensitivity and most pleasurable first stage as long as possible.
How often do you change positions? The first answer is to change as often as HE wants you to. But if he’s letting you lead, then change every 2-3 minutes. Even the best pleasure will grow monotonous after a while so switch it up between his favorites. If you are applying sustained friction and pressure in the right area (usually the frenulum) then he should come to orgasm in 5-10 minutes anyway. However, to give him the PERFECT blowjob, you’re not going to let him cum when he first reaches his peak anyway. More on that later, but back to positions…
Sitting on your knees like this may start to hurt pretty quickly, and your neck may be straining with your head back like this, so after 3 minutes or so, time to change. The position I’ll describe is almost unbearably sexy to most men. Lay on your back, or a table or desk, or a recliner-type chair, with your head hanging off the edge so your mouth and throat line up perfectly for full and deepest penetration. This is the very easiest position to deep-throat. Many women will be surprised to find that if they are highly aroused and their man’s penis is very lubricated, they will be able swallow all of it into their throat, when normally in other positions they would gag and choke. Your man will have a tremendous urge to thrust all the way in, so be careful if you’re not prepared for this, because he may do it involuntarily. He’s not going to be thinking clearly, if at all, during this! You can alleviate gagging by swallowing, but that takes practice too… it’s not easy to swallow with a penis in your throat.
Hints: Arch your back as much as possible. Bring up your knees and spread them out so your toes are nearly touching near your ass. Play with your clitoris and pussy with one hand, and your breasts with the other, giving yourself as much pleasure as possible. The more turned on you are, the deeper and better you’ll be able to take his cock into your mouth and throat, and the better sounds you’re going to make.
Now while the “on your back with head hanging over” is probably the most exotically erotic of all blowjob positions, it’s not the best for bringing him to orgasm. Why not? Because your tongue will be above his penis, and when you press with it, you’ll be pushing on the top of his penis, rather than the frenulum, the magic spot that brings most men to orgasm. With time, you can find the perfect angle to hold your head so that the back of your throat rubs his frenulum as his cock bends around the corner into your throat, but that takes a lot of practice to get right.
After another three minutes, probably time to change again, so let’s move to something where you can really hit his magic spot. Get him to a bed or sofa so you can both get more comfortable. Ask him to get on his knees, and then you kneel down in front of him in “doggy style” (or “cow pose” in yoga). You’ll be on your elbows and knees, with your butt up in the air, and your knees spread apart. If you’re wearing high heels, keep your feet apart a bit so he can see them. This position is also excellent for deep-throating. If your neck is flexible, you’ll still be able to look up at him to keep eye contact. Either encourage him to thrust into your mouth at his own pace, or move your whole body (not just your head) to a rhythm that you know will please him. Be sure to move your but back and forth, or in small circles, sort of grinding to the rhythm of his pace and to the music if you have it on. He will love seeing your dance of pleasure, and this goes for every position.
By now, you’re several minutes into the blowjob and if you’ve been slowly increasing the pressure of your lips and tongue, he is going to get close to orgasm, and your mouth may be getting tired unless you’re very well practiced in oral sex skills. It’s now finally time to use your hand to help, but ONLY if you really need it, because believe me, he prefers your mouth if you can give him the pressure he needs to reach climax. Make an “O” with your thumb and forefinger and use it to apply pressure to his frenulum and then stroke down to the base of his penis so he feels like he’s penetrating you fully. Having your hand here also can help you to keep him from penetrating your throat too deeply and gagging you if he loses control, which is very likely, especially as he reaches orgasm.
If another three minutes goes by, then we’ll change again. This time, move to laying on your back, possibly with your head propped up with a pillow, and pull him on top of you so he can thrust into your mouth, or watch you sucking up from below, whichever he prefers. This is a great position for him to orgasm in too, and he’ll be able to watch the whole show. Both your hands will be free to roam… play with both your bodies or continue to use pressure on his cock if you need the help. If he likes you to play the submissive then he can pin your hands with one or both of his.
Finally he orgasms…
While he may cum in any of these positions, try to get back to the original position of being on your knees for the best possible way to give him an orgasm. The reason for this is that from this position you have a lot of control in order to lengthen his orgasm so it lasts a lot longer and he comes much harder. The way to do this is very simple, yet very few women ever do it because by the time their man’s ready to orgasm, they are tired and ready for it to be over. But I’m telling you how to give the ultimate, most mind-blowing, never-to-be-forgotten, say-I-do blowjob, and being easy or quick isn’t in the picture here.
As he approaches orgasm, you should usually know it. His breathing, his groans and moans, his thrusting, etc. Normally you’d tighten the pressure at his frenulum to take him over the edge, but not this time. For the ultimate blowjob you will lighten the pressure just at the point where he needs it most, at the very last few seconds, and if necessary take him completely out of your mouth until his convulsions stop, and then immediately start again, very lightly at first and building up, only to stop again at the crucial moment. You can also grip the base of his penis very hard to simply cut off the flow of semen, but you need to really know what you’re doing because this can hurt some men. With experimentation using these techniques, you can even get your man to shoot out a load of semen onto you without having an orgasm, leaving him free to keep going and have a second, even more powerful orgasm. You may not know that ejaculation and orgasm are NOT the same thing. They usually happen at the same time so most women (and most men) think they’re inextricably linked, but they’re not… but that’s a subject for another article. The point now is to bring him to orgasm and then back off, as many times as you both want. His orgasm will be much better and he’ll shoot out a lot more semen if you do this.
The money shot – the cum facial
Now when he finally ejaculates, here’s where the best part comes in, and what really makes or breaks a great blowjob. Many men will tell you that if they have to rate a blowjob on a scale of 1 to 10, a girl who “doesn’t swallow” can never get higher than a 5 no matter what else she does! It’s THAT important to most men. Pulling him out of your mouth to cum on your chest or in your hand will be a BIG disappointment to most men.
He probably also has a huge urge to “cum all over your face.” Now WHY he wants to do that is the subject of much mystery and debate among sexperts, but it’s safe to assume that he wants this, especially if he’s ever watched porn (and most men have.) If he hasn’t done this before and hasn’t watched porn, he’ll probably love doing it if you talk him into it. Remember, you will know more about what he likes than he does.
So, can you satisfy both his urge to penetrate you all the way, have you swallow, and cum on your face at the same time? Heather Brooke, who may be the internet’s most famous blowjob queen (www.ideepthroat.com) shows us how it’s done. When he starts to ejaculate, pull him out of your mouth and let his semen shoot onto your lips, chin and cheeks for 2-3 squirts, THEN he goes immediately back into your mouth for deep-throat penetration. His penis will probably be very sensitive and he doesn’t need any pressure at all, especially on his frenulum. Actually, the less the better, but sliding in and out of your super-slippery mouth and throat will feel great if you do it slowly.
Hint: During this time, of course you are making sounds of great pleasure and approval. You simply must BEG him to PLEASE cum on your face or in your mouth, as if nothing in the world would make you happier (and by this time it might be true.) Make him believe it’s true and he literally can’t help but love you. Yes, you’re “acting like a slut” but most men want a slut in their bed, just not in public! Show him you understand this about him and he will absolutely treasure you.
Do you really need to let him cum all over your face? Absolutely not! Actually he probably doesn’t want to cum all over. If it goes in your eyes it can spoil the event because it can sting. And it certainly doesn’t look sexy if it goes into your nose or even onto your upper lip where it can look like SNOT. SNOT is NOT sexy. So keep it on your lips, chin, and cheeks, and you’ll keep looking beautiful throughout the event, which is what he really wants. Do NOT stick your tongue too far out of your mouth like an idiot. You want to have the facial expressions of a sexy supermodel or a woman having an orgasm, not a clown. Watching his cum shooting onto a gorgeous happy woman who loves it as much as he does is probably the highlight of his life, so don’t spoil it by making ugly or silly faces.
Final touches to the perfect blowjob
You don’t need to actually swallow his cum if you don’t want to. He’s probably perfectly happy to watch as you let it slowly dribble out of your mouth and down onto your breasts. Go slow, take your time, let him enjoy the show. Slowly lick your lips. Do NOT get up and run to the bathroom to clean up. Give him at least 2-3 minutes to enjoy seeing his cum on you. Don’t rush him. The tail end of his orgasm lasts quite a while past his ejaculation, and during this time, pleasure endorphins will be pumping into his blood, so don’t spoil the moment by leaving or doing anything other than giving him your full and undivided, completely un-distracted attention.
Be sure to THANK him for the best blowjob you’ve ever given. Tell him how great he was and how much you enjoyed HIM. You MUST tell him how great his cum tasted. Make him believe that it was as good for you, or better, than it was for him.
Now if you can just repeat this once a week, with some variations and surprises thrown in, you will have this man wrapped around your finger for as long as you want him!